Showing posts with label Life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Life. Show all posts
Wednesday, August 1, 2012
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Story to be told..... (copy from my friend)
Pencil: I'm sorry....
Eraser: For what? You didn't do anything wrong.
Pencil: I'm sorry cos you get hurt bcos of me. Whenever I made a
mistake, you're always there to erase it. But as you make my mistakes
vanish, you lose a part of yourself. You get smaller and smaller each
time.
Eraser: That's true. But I don't really mind. You see, I was made to
do this. I was made to help you whenever you do something wrong. Even
though one day, I know I'll be gone and you'll replace me with a new
one, I'm actually happy with my job. So please, stop worrying. I hate
seeing you sad. :)
I found this conversation between the pencil and the eraser very
inspirational. Parents are like the eraser whereas their children are
the pencil. They're always there for their children, cleaning up their
mistakes. Sometimes along the way... they get hurt, and become smaller
(older, and eventually pass on). Though their children will eventually
find someone new (spouse), but parents are still happy with what they
do for their children, and will always hate seeing their precious ones
worrying, or sad.
This is for all parents and becoming parent out there.....
Take Care….
Eraser: For what? You didn't do anything wrong.
Pencil: I'm sorry cos you get hurt bcos of me. Whenever I made a
mistake, you're always there to erase it. But as you make my mistakes
vanish, you lose a part of yourself. You get smaller and smaller each
time.
Eraser: That's true. But I don't really mind. You see, I was made to
do this. I was made to help you whenever you do something wrong. Even
though one day, I know I'll be gone and you'll replace me with a new
one, I'm actually happy with my job. So please, stop worrying. I hate
seeing you sad. :)
I found this conversation between the pencil and the eraser very
inspirational. Parents are like the eraser whereas their children are
the pencil. They're always there for their children, cleaning up their
mistakes. Sometimes along the way... they get hurt, and become smaller
(older, and eventually pass on). Though their children will eventually
find someone new (spouse), but parents are still happy with what they
do for their children, and will always hate seeing their precious ones
worrying, or sad.
This is for all parents and becoming parent out there.....
Take Care….
Saturday, December 25, 2010
-Reality itu adalah kenyataan-
25hb disember 2010, mungkin orang lain sedang tunggu hadiah dari santa ataupun tengah memikirkan cara untuk memasak megi hot cup. Tetapi tidak oh tidak. Aku kembali mengupdate blog dan ianya sesuatu yang pelik. Mungkin deman yg merencat segala aktiviti aku selama seminggu ni mengakibatkan aku menulis post ini. Sahabat-sahabat lain sudah pun sama tamat belajar. HOoorey da abes belajar. No more assignment, Classes or stupid freaking results yang perlu di cek selepas tamat semester. Hahaha. But it's Was Fun kan? and What next??...
Bagi yang normal musti la mengimpikan kerja dan mostly payment or dalam malay minded DUET!!... Yups, kami sume ni bachelor Degree Holder. eh2 plus HONS. lagi. Apabila mengimpikan sesuatu kerja, musti meraka nk gaji berasas (basic) dengan dorg punya kelayakan. I tell you what, nothing is f**king wrong when you demanding something like that. Yups, basic Gaji itu penting kan?.. paling kurang 2K korg mahu betol?.. nnti dapat gaji boleh barang ni, barang tu, baju mahal2, jeans, beg and all the a**hole you wanted to. Then terpikir plak nak de transport at least a car la. Hmm let me guess paling buruk2 pn Myvi or stupid Saga BLM or Viva paling cikai kot. Mcm xde taste tp itulah reality!
But lets faces the reality, yes i said again REALITY!!!!......
Bagi yang normal musti la mengimpikan kerja dan mostly payment or dalam malay minded DUET!!... Yups, kami sume ni bachelor Degree Holder. eh2 plus HONS. lagi. Apabila mengimpikan sesuatu kerja, musti meraka nk gaji berasas (basic) dengan dorg punya kelayakan. I tell you what, nothing is f**king wrong when you demanding something like that. Yups, basic Gaji itu penting kan?.. paling kurang 2K korg mahu betol?.. nnti dapat gaji boleh barang ni, barang tu, baju mahal2, jeans, beg and all the a**hole you wanted to. Then terpikir plak nak de transport at least a car la. Hmm let me guess paling buruk2 pn Myvi or stupid Saga BLM or Viva paling cikai kot. Mcm xde taste tp itulah reality!
But lets faces the reality, yes i said again REALITY!!!!......
Monday, September 20, 2010
Malaysians are getting married at older age. Why?
Malaysians are getting married at older age. Why?
Say you are a fresh graduate at that age of 23, a male,starting a carrier with a salary, say RM2000 per month.
Monthly, extracting your expenditures on foods, transportation (public or motorcycle), electricity, water, phone, house rent and other
expenses, say you can save about RM800 the most.
Then, because you are a good son, you send some money to your parents or relatives about
RM300 per month. This will give you a balance of RM500 of saving. For the first year, maybe you are very discipline with
your budget, so you save about RM5000.
The next year at the age of 24, you meet a girl of your dream. Both of you
plan to get married after one year or two. Ok, that's fine, it gives you
time to save some more money and some more time to prepare the basic
necessities for a 'happy' family? a car and a roof to live under. That year
because you are a hard worker, you get a raise of 10%.
Since you are also a gentleman, you make sure some money is put aside to spend on dates and
gifts for your girl, so 10% goes for her. Like the previous year, after
much sweat and Meggie-eating months, you save another RM5000. You are paid 2 months bonus. So, another RM4000 is
added to your saving. So, your total saving now is RM14,000.
You decide to spend about RM8000 on a brand-new RM40,000 car down payment. So, you
net saving that year is RM6000.
The next year at the age of 25, you are doing fine at work. But because
now you have to pay for car every month, your total monthly saving is
cut down to about RM400. You save roughly about RM5000 that year. No
bonus that year because your company is doing poor. So, your total
saving in the bank is RM11,000.
Then, you decide to get engaged with
your girlfriend. She said OK. So, need to buy an engagement ring.
RM1500 is spent on ring plus 'hantaran pertunangan'. So, your net
saving that year is RM9,500.
The next year at the age of 26, you get promoted. Your
salary now is 1.5 of your starting salary at the company. Good news! You think. "Ok, this year
I will get married". You also are 'gersang' already. :)
So, you ask your fiancée "how much is the dowry (hantaran)? "
She say, "berapa-berapa yang u sanggup".
You ask,"RM5000 ok?".
She replies, "I okay je. Tapi my mom tu. Dia kata grad oversea macam I
ni mane boleh letak rendah-rendah. Paling kurang RM10,000 tau!".
Your eyes 'terjegil', air liur 'meleleh' and you faint on the spot.
"Where else in the world can I get extra money?", you say to yourself.
But, because you are very determined to get married with your dream
girl and in the name of love, you work really really hard that year
until you are awarded "The Best Employee of The Year". You get 3 months
of bonus. You also do some side business to supply ayam pencen. So,
roughly your net saving at the end of that year is RM20,000.
Ok, now you are 27 years old with enough saving in the bank to pay for
the dowry. But then, come your mom saying,"Anak mak nak kawin ni mesti
la buat grand grand. Kita sewa khemah besar-besar, jemput penyanyi ke
artis ke sorang dua datang buat persembahan. Lauk pauk kita cater aje
la ya? RM10 je sekepala. Baju kawin ko, kita sewa yg cantik-cantik
dan mahal-mahal sket. Kita jemput dalam 1000 orang datang ok?"
You did a quick in-the-head-calculation,
"1000xRM10=RM10,000, penyanyi lagi, khemah lagi, buta-buta je RM15,000!!! Tu tak masuk cincin kahwin lagi!!"
You say,"Mak, nak buat apa membazir-bazir duit ni?"
Your mom replies,"Apa pulak membazirnya? Kau kawin sekali je seumur hidup.
`Biarlah buat betul-betul." You insist,"Tapi mak?"
Your mom says, "Dahlah, kau jangan nak buat malu mak. Cik Tipah jiran
kita tu buat kenduri kat hotel siap dato, datin, tan sri puan sri lagi
datang. Mana la mak nak letak muka kalau buat kenduri kecik kecik?".
Anyway, you finally get married. But, a beautiful happy life after
marriage that you dream of with your wife does not last long. You have
debts around your waist, interest gets higher every month, cannot
afford to pay them, you wife gets tired of you asking money from her,
she accuses you of being irresponsible husband for not being a good
provider, blah blah blah? At the
end, you two go into separate ways? You get divorced.
Problem breeds problem? Sometimes we wonder why marriage institution is failing in our country.
The above example may not represent the whole phenomena in our culture,
but perhaps it gives us some ideas of the problems young couple these
days are facing in getting married from my perspective.
The Root Cause of The Problem...
There is something wrong in our culture. I really think there are some
practices in our culture in Malaysia (Malay culture specifically) that
do not make sense and especially they are contrary to the teaching of
Islam. These practices are well-rooted in our culture that
unfortunately because of them, many people are 'afraid' to get married,
or simply feel like they cannot afford when they are actually can
afford. These are some of my observation and summary analysis:
(1) Marriage should be done in the most modest way but in Malaysia, it
is ought to be done in the most lavish way. Competition on whose
wedding is the most grandeur is almost unavoidable. Fame is usually the
reason why people spend unreasonable and wasteful amount of money for a
wedding.
(2) The "price" of a woman is measured according to her perhaps
educational status not according to her knowledge and understanding of
Deen and piety as suggested by the religion. The saddest thing is that
"price" is put on women, who are supposed to be, if God-loving,
kind-hearted and pious ones, "priceless"! 'Dowry' system is adopted by
the Malays from perhaps the Indians who came to Malaysia long time ago.
When the 'dowry' is put too high and men can't afford to pay, marriage
is usually delayed or cancelled. An effort to build another small brick
unit of this Deen is delayed or perhaps destroyed only for this reason.
(3) Marriage should be a quick and easy process for the couple not hard,
which eventually becomes a burden. These days, we make marriage so
complicated that people are afraid of getting married. When I was in
the Sydney, I saw Muslim brothers and sisters getting married at the
mosque, with just some sweets as the main course for the guests. The
guests who were invited to witness the ceremony were usually whoever
prayed jemaah at the mosque or some close relatives and friends. There
is no point of being extravagance. We should focus on the life after wedding not the wedding
itself. Wedding is only a door to the marriage house. Why should we
spent a lot of money to decorate the door so beautifully, when the
inside of the house is then left empty, dark and unattractive?
...and the pressure is on men...
Say you are a fresh graduate at that age of 23, a male,starting a carrier with a salary, say RM2000 per month.
Monthly, extracting your expenditures on foods, transportation (public or motorcycle), electricity, water, phone, house rent and other
expenses, say you can save about RM800 the most.
Then, because you are a good son, you send some money to your parents or relatives about
RM300 per month. This will give you a balance of RM500 of saving. For the first year, maybe you are very discipline with
your budget, so you save about RM5000.
The next year at the age of 24, you meet a girl of your dream. Both of you
plan to get married after one year or two. Ok, that's fine, it gives you
time to save some more money and some more time to prepare the basic
necessities for a 'happy' family? a car and a roof to live under. That year
because you are a hard worker, you get a raise of 10%.
Since you are also a gentleman, you make sure some money is put aside to spend on dates and
gifts for your girl, so 10% goes for her. Like the previous year, after
much sweat and Meggie-eating months, you save another RM5000. You are paid 2 months bonus. So, another RM4000 is
added to your saving. So, your total saving now is RM14,000.
You decide to spend about RM8000 on a brand-new RM40,000 car down payment. So, you
net saving that year is RM6000.
The next year at the age of 25, you are doing fine at work. But because
now you have to pay for car every month, your total monthly saving is
cut down to about RM400. You save roughly about RM5000 that year. No
bonus that year because your company is doing poor. So, your total
saving in the bank is RM11,000.
Then, you decide to get engaged with
your girlfriend. She said OK. So, need to buy an engagement ring.
RM1500 is spent on ring plus 'hantaran pertunangan'. So, your net
saving that year is RM9,500.
The next year at the age of 26, you get promoted. Your
salary now is 1.5 of your starting salary at the company. Good news! You think. "Ok, this year
I will get married". You also are 'gersang' already. :)
So, you ask your fiancée "how much is the dowry (hantaran)? "
She say, "berapa-berapa yang u sanggup".
You ask,"RM5000 ok?".
She replies, "I okay je. Tapi my mom tu. Dia kata grad oversea macam I
ni mane boleh letak rendah-rendah. Paling kurang RM10,000 tau!".
Your eyes 'terjegil', air liur 'meleleh' and you faint on the spot.
"Where else in the world can I get extra money?", you say to yourself.
But, because you are very determined to get married with your dream
girl and in the name of love, you work really really hard that year
until you are awarded "The Best Employee of The Year". You get 3 months
of bonus. You also do some side business to supply ayam pencen. So,
roughly your net saving at the end of that year is RM20,000.
Ok, now you are 27 years old with enough saving in the bank to pay for
the dowry. But then, come your mom saying,"Anak mak nak kawin ni mesti
la buat grand grand. Kita sewa khemah besar-besar, jemput penyanyi ke
artis ke sorang dua datang buat persembahan. Lauk pauk kita cater aje
la ya? RM10 je sekepala. Baju kawin ko, kita sewa yg cantik-cantik
dan mahal-mahal sket. Kita jemput dalam 1000 orang datang ok?"
You did a quick in-the-head-calculation,
"1000xRM10=RM10,000, penyanyi lagi, khemah lagi, buta-buta je RM15,000!!! Tu tak masuk cincin kahwin lagi!!"
You say,"Mak, nak buat apa membazir-bazir duit ni?"
Your mom replies,"Apa pulak membazirnya? Kau kawin sekali je seumur hidup.
`Biarlah buat betul-betul." You insist,"Tapi mak?"
Your mom says, "Dahlah, kau jangan nak buat malu mak. Cik Tipah jiran
kita tu buat kenduri kat hotel siap dato, datin, tan sri puan sri lagi
datang. Mana la mak nak letak muka kalau buat kenduri kecik kecik?".
Anyway, you finally get married. But, a beautiful happy life after
marriage that you dream of with your wife does not last long. You have
debts around your waist, interest gets higher every month, cannot
afford to pay them, you wife gets tired of you asking money from her,
she accuses you of being irresponsible husband for not being a good
provider, blah blah blah? At the
end, you two go into separate ways? You get divorced.
Problem breeds problem? Sometimes we wonder why marriage institution is failing in our country.
The above example may not represent the whole phenomena in our culture,
but perhaps it gives us some ideas of the problems young couple these
days are facing in getting married from my perspective.
The Root Cause of The Problem...
There is something wrong in our culture. I really think there are some
practices in our culture in Malaysia (Malay culture specifically) that
do not make sense and especially they are contrary to the teaching of
Islam. These practices are well-rooted in our culture that
unfortunately because of them, many people are 'afraid' to get married,
or simply feel like they cannot afford when they are actually can
afford. These are some of my observation and summary analysis:
(1) Marriage should be done in the most modest way but in Malaysia, it
is ought to be done in the most lavish way. Competition on whose
wedding is the most grandeur is almost unavoidable. Fame is usually the
reason why people spend unreasonable and wasteful amount of money for a
wedding.
(2) The "price" of a woman is measured according to her perhaps
educational status not according to her knowledge and understanding of
Deen and piety as suggested by the religion. The saddest thing is that
"price" is put on women, who are supposed to be, if God-loving,
kind-hearted and pious ones, "priceless"! 'Dowry' system is adopted by
the Malays from perhaps the Indians who came to Malaysia long time ago.
When the 'dowry' is put too high and men can't afford to pay, marriage
is usually delayed or cancelled. An effort to build another small brick
unit of this Deen is delayed or perhaps destroyed only for this reason.
(3) Marriage should be a quick and easy process for the couple not hard,
which eventually becomes a burden. These days, we make marriage so
complicated that people are afraid of getting married. When I was in
the Sydney, I saw Muslim brothers and sisters getting married at the
mosque, with just some sweets as the main course for the guests. The
guests who were invited to witness the ceremony were usually whoever
prayed jemaah at the mosque or some close relatives and friends. There
is no point of being extravagance. We should focus on the life after wedding not the wedding
itself. Wedding is only a door to the marriage house. Why should we
spent a lot of money to decorate the door so beautifully, when the
inside of the house is then left empty, dark and unattractive?
...and the pressure is on men...
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
Past, present, and future - Events Forever~
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| MPG - Malam Kemilau Nusantara |
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| Super Organizers - Sutera (part 3) |
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| KLWMBC 2009 |
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Picture with Thailand Maching Band Chonkayahkoon - 2nd Runner Up     |
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
MICE - Meeting, Incentive, Convention and Exhibition
p/s ; Miss her so much...♥
Sunday, April 18, 2010
What you give,, you get back!!!
Kadang-kadang saya rasa tersinggung apabila permintaan saya tidak dihargai. Saya cuma mahukan masa beberapa hari dalam sebulan untuk saya bersama isteri dan anak-anak. Kotak-kotak kosong diari itu sebenarnya tidak kosong.
��Bolehlah ustaz, janganlah macam itu. Anak hari-hari boleh jumpa. Kami sudah tiada masa lain yang sesuai untuk menjemput ustaz. Harap ustaz dapat pertimbangkan permintaan kami,�� kata seorang pemanggil.
Dialog seperti ini meletakkan saya pada situasi serba salah. Saya berdakwah kepada masyarakat, bagaimana pula ahli keluarga saya sendiri? Kera di hutan disusukan, anak di rumah mati kelaparan. Itulah peribahasa Melayu yang amat menusuk perasaan saya.
Ketika saya menaip artikel ini, anak-anak saya sedang tidur nyenyak. Memandang mereka telah meretak hibakan hati saya.
�Maafkan Abi, wahai anak-anakku, Abi berdosa mengabaikan kalian,�� saya sukar menahan hati dari bersedih.
Tidak wajar kita menyangka kita sudah menjadi ibu dan bapa yang baik hanya kerana makan pakai anak-anak sudah cukup. Itu tahap pencapaian yang dikongsi bersama antara manusia dan haiwan. Ibu bapa manusia ada tanggungjawab yang lebih besar dari itu. Soal makan, minum, pakaian, perlindungan, pendidikan, makanan emosi dan spiritual, semuanya mesti diharmonikan bersama bekalan yang tidak putus-putus. Apa yang paling utama adalah soal kuantiti dan kualiti masa yang kita luangkan bersama mereka. Sudah cukupkah untuk meyakinkan mereka, bahawa kita benar-benar kasihkan mereka?
Kita sibuk bekerja dan kerja tidak pernah habis.
Seandainya saya memohon kotak kosong itu dikekalkan kosong, janganlah heret saya ke suasana yang menjadikan saya tersepit. Saya ada tanggungjawab kepada anak-anak, kita semua sama. Anak-anak dan isteri saya, adalah mad��u (sasaran dakwah) pertama saya.
Jika kita tercicir anak di perhentian lebuh raya, kita tetap ada jalan untuk berpatah balik, walaupun derau hati bagi separuh mati.Tetapi berapa ramai ustaz, doktor, polis, jurutera, pegawai bank dan kita-kita semua yang ketika dalam perjalanan memanjat tangga kerjaya dan kenaikan pangkat, kita tertinggal anak-anak di belakang. Jika lebuh raya kita boleh berpatah balik. Tetapi jika anak-anak tercicir dari Tarbiah Islam, ketika kita tersedar yang mereka yang sudah jauh ketinggalan di belakang, apakah ada jalan pulang? Apakah ada satu lagi peluang? Jawapannya TIADA.
Jika ada lelaki atau wanita yang berjaya di dalam kerjaya, jangan lupa kepada pengorbanan anak-anak selama ini. Jangan lupa dosa kita terhadap mereka.
Saya hairan semasa membaca sabda Nabi s.a.w. betapa tanda kiamat itu adalah pada ibu yang melahirkan tuannya. Anak derhaka jadi fenomena biasa di akhir zaman. Mengapa suasana begitu boleh terjadi? Pasti ia tidak berlaku tiba-tiba, atau tanpa sebab pemula.
Akhirnya saya membuat kesimpulan, anak durhaka di akhir zaman, bermula dengan dosa ibu dan bapa yang sibuk bekerja. What you give, you get back!
Maafkan Abi dan Ummi!
Thursday, September 24, 2009
Saturday, July 25, 2009
Monday, July 6, 2009
SToP!!!..>LisTEn & WaTcH.....
1st day at hell yeah puncak alam campus dam i having fun...
watching stupid **hole trapping in lift tower...very funny...hahaha
hearing some monkey talking about sh*t about puncak alam area....
give me headaches sometimes...really?..nope...
the campus quite nice actually...be positive guys...
my roomate 'cheld' also same batch with me...he totally simple+rocks...
thanks God...
U make me realizes others who's face many trouble & unfortunate dare to move...
me?...still praying for Ur forgiveness & correct path to overcome the 'things'...
Insyallah~....
watching stupid **hole trapping in lift tower...very funny...hahaha
hearing some monkey talking about sh*t about puncak alam area....
give me headaches sometimes...really?..nope...
the campus quite nice actually...be positive guys...
my roomate 'cheld' also same batch with me...he totally simple+rocks...
thanks God...
U make me realizes others who's face many trouble & unfortunate dare to move...
me?...still praying for Ur forgiveness & correct path to overcome the 'things'...
Insyallah~....
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